We would like to move our son to our guest room and keep his old room the nursery. We also have a "big boy bed" coming in about a week. Any suggestions on how to make this transition smooth? Also, how do I lay him down for bed and make him stay there?
With the moving of rooms I would make sure that it is a move for him to a "big boy" room/bed, I would make sure that he doesn't feel that the move is due to the baby.
I absolutely love the Baby/Toddler Wise books, but you also have to consider the personality of your child. I would suggest that you take several suggestions and make the martini that fits your child.
With our oldest daughter, all she needed was for us to tell her "do not get out of the bed", that was it, said and done, she didn't even get out of bed without calling us until she was 4 years old.
With the twins, they are different personalities and boy did they give me a run for my money. A couple of suggestions off the top of my head is to explain to him that you do not want him to get out of bed, we use things like, "don't get up until the sun is shining", "if you need us call us", etc.. We have also used door knob protectors so they have to call us, after several months we were able to take them off. We also have given them a small box, basket of toys and told them they could play in the bed, but could not get out.
The Supernanny method does work, I have used it when the girls have gotten wound up and loud when it was nap time, I would go in, put them back in bed or reposition them in bed, cover them up then walk out, but never say a word, sometimes it took several trips, sometimes it only took once.
You just have do decide on a method and be consistent, don't show any emotion or frustration. You also have to decide if he does get out of bed how you want to handle it, if he stays in the room, you might just want to leave him, he may take a while to go to sleep, but eventually he will. Just decide what battle you want to fight and why you want to fight it, is it because you want him to do what you want him to or is it because he must do it.
Just remember to try to keep yourself in check, it can be VERY frustrating when things don't go how we want them to, but don't let it make you loose your cool. You may not always feel like you are in control, but if you always offer choices then you really are in control because the choices you offer are always acceptable.
Another good book is "Parenting with love and logic" by Foster Cline and Jim Fay. There are a couple of editions, but any of them would work, they say basically the same thing. Like babywise, it offers a lot of suggestions and therefore you have to use the ones that work best for you, your child and your family.
Just converse with me and I will try to help you through this. I hope this helps
With the moving of rooms I would make sure that it is a move for him to a "big boy" room/bed, I would make sure that he doesn't feel that the move is due to the baby.
I absolutely love the Baby/Toddler Wise books, but you also have to consider the personality of your child. I would suggest that you take several suggestions and make the martini that fits your child.
With our oldest daughter, all she needed was for us to tell her "do not get out of the bed", that was it, said and done, she didn't even get out of bed without calling us until she was 4 years old.
With the twins, they are different personalities and boy did they give me a run for my money. A couple of suggestions off the top of my head is to explain to him that you do not want him to get out of bed, we use things like, "don't get up until the sun is shining", "if you need us call us", etc.. We have also used door knob protectors so they have to call us, after several months we were able to take them off. We also have given them a small box, basket of toys and told them they could play in the bed, but could not get out.
The Supernanny method does work, I have used it when the girls have gotten wound up and loud when it was nap time, I would go in, put them back in bed or reposition them in bed, cover them up then walk out, but never say a word, sometimes it took several trips, sometimes it only took once.
You just have do decide on a method and be consistent, don't show any emotion or frustration. You also have to decide if he does get out of bed how you want to handle it, if he stays in the room, you might just want to leave him, he may take a while to go to sleep, but eventually he will. Just decide what battle you want to fight and why you want to fight it, is it because you want him to do what you want him to or is it because he must do it.
Just remember to try to keep yourself in check, it can be VERY frustrating when things don't go how we want them to, but don't let it make you loose your cool. You may not always feel like you are in control, but if you always offer choices then you really are in control because the choices you offer are always acceptable.
Another good book is "Parenting with love and logic" by Foster Cline and Jim Fay. There are a couple of editions, but any of them would work, they say basically the same thing. Like babywise, it offers a lot of suggestions and therefore you have to use the ones that work best for you, your child and your family.
Just converse with me and I will try to help you through this. I hope this helps
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